Daily Share - Are My Insecurities Clouding My Relationship?

My boyfriend and I have been together 9 months and it's been going great. I am 26 and he is 34. However, he was VERY hurt by his last relationship and pretty much claims to "hate" this woman. Additionally, I have had a few past relationships where I was left by the guys for their exes or other women. Obviously feeling like I'm second best has taken a toll on my self worth and flared my insecurities.

Well the current boyfriend is great. Very much makes me feel like I'm his number #1. However, there are times I catch him checking out other women, very often talking about bringing another woman into bed with us (bc he says it would be sexy to see me with another woman), and even found sex videos from him and his ex that he viewed during our relationship, and other old relationship 'stuff' still around his apartment. Additionally, I found a first FB message to a girl he met on vacation with his guy friends while we were together (nothing happened as I am mentioned in the message, but he was provoking dirty talk from this girl) All things I have found are because I've snooped out of curiosity of this ex that hurt him and wanting to know more about the relationship.

So I am trying to figure out if my insecurities are becoming fueled because I snooped and found things that are old and mean nothing to him or if I really do not trust him.

The second leg of this.... He talks about marrying me and our kids and growing old together and all that good stuff. So we have discussed me moving to his area because he owns a business and we need to have our first home/office there before we can buy a family home in the future. I find myself very hesitant and arguing that I'm giving up so much to move there, family, friends, my apt, location, and committing to a 90 minute round trip commute to work while I feel that he's not giving up anything. I'm starting to think that the reason I am arguing this is because it's more related to the insecurity/trust issue than actually just moving to his area.

Do you think I am flaring my own insecurities and it's causing me to drive myself crazy or do you think that I am valid in feeling that he is not trustworthy and moving on from the relationship is best?

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